From August 8th, 2010 I recently realized that since coming  out as Polyamorous, my sense of a cohesive self has finally manifested.  That might sound a bit dramatic, but when you’ve lived your entire adult life feeling divided into the “good person” or the “bad person,” having  those resolved into just “me”  feels  rather revolutionary.   I never believed that anyone could love the whole me, including all of the messy negative stuff.  So I sectioned off all of the things I perceived as bad (my tendency  to cheat being chief among them)  and only certain people got to see that part. Only those people who had engaged with me…